Narcissist---Living is Easy Without a Conscience

Think of how many times you have awakened at night with pricks of conscience interrupting your dreams. There are ranges of conscience from obsessively scrupulous to none at all. The latter is the narcissist who drives at warp speed, changes lanes frequently while he/she endangers others and gets away with it. A skilled narcissist can do almost anything he wants, particularly in our current societal love affair with celebrity adoration, material excess, lack of morality and ethics in every level and stripe of business, once esteemed professions and government. If you're a successful narcissist in the highest echelons of power, you call the shots. This means that you control the lives of others on a whim. Narcissists hire those who are loyal and often enslaved to them, who know the darkest secrets but keep their lips sealed, who provide sexual favors in exchange for power and material access. The narcissist sets his life up like a master chess player. With all of the pieces at his command., he jumps many moves ahead of any opponent--check mate!. One of the sharpest arrows in his quiver is the narcissist's lack of conscience. Without conscience he can plunge ahead with any manipulation or ruse--- private, professional, familial--- without the slightest concern of its psychological, emotional or monetary effects upon anyone but himself. Narcissists are calculating, venal and exploitive. They march toward ever-increasing sources of worldly power without a hint of concern about whom they are trampling. This accumulating body of victims includes their children. If the child of the narcissist does not fit into the mold created by his/her father, he is cast out of paradise. Some narcissistic parents don't acknowledge that their children even exist. They are left to swing in the fickle winds of fortune. The lack of conscience in the narcissist reveals itself in their numerous marriages and affairs. They often pick vulnerable partners who are emotionally dependent on them and willing to give their lives over to a professional exploiter. There are partners who cannot tolerate the narcissistic abuse but who are too terrified to leave the relationship. The narcissist exhibits no concern about these individuals---they are a burden, an albatross, a stale tainted possession that they must discard. The spurned partner if they are psychologically fragile may have a breakdown, flee to drugs and alcohol to ease the pain or become physically ill. The narcissist turns to one of his lieutenants and says the familiar words: "I don't care how you do it but get her out of here." Narcissists who have fathered children with a variety of women often "forget" their progeny and find ways to obstruct the laws that would protect their biological offspring. Frequently, the narcissist hides assets from those who have coupled with him in the past and finds clever ways to obstruct the law with the use of a small army of highly paid attorneys.

The best way to win with a narcissist is to know exactly who he or she is psychologically, inside and out. Doing your research on these complex and confounding personality disorders is very worthwhile. Don't underestimate your strengths, talents, ingenuity or character when you face a narcissist. Beneath it all, he/she is an empty coward who causes grave psychological harm. For more detailed information about the psychodynamics of the narcissistic personality, childhood origins, and how to prevail with the narcissist, visit my website: http://www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com/

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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